Himmat Collective

Punjabi Mothers and their sons, hey? Welcome to Himmat Collective, a place for the Punjabi Community to share their story around fertility and loss. We believe that everyone's journey is different, but we can all connect somehow. Today's blog post is anonymous, and below we explore the powerful truth of how some Punjabi in laws can behave following loss. "After 24 weeks of having my baby in my womb, 16 weeks of being aware she was there and 3 weeks of feeling her moving, we came home from the hospital without my baby girl. Yes, the pain of not having her and holding her was unbearable. Yes, I miss her and think of her every day. But somehow with understanding and love, I am now able to think of her and smile. I know that what happened could not have been helped, I know that there was nobody that could have controlled or helped the situation I was in. To my baby girl, I miss you and I love you always. However, what I have not been able to let go of, is the pain that I then ...

 W elcome to Himmat Collective, a place for the Punjabi Community to share their story around fertility and loss. We believe that everyone's journey is different, but we can all connect somehow. Our blog today is from a mother, who would have done anything to take the pain away from her daughter during her loss at 5 months pregnant. I remember the exact moment my entire world changed. It was all in a matter of minutes with one call from my daughter  Kirren , telling me “my daughter is gone”. 4 words that shattered my heart and then the phone cut off.  I stood unable to speak or move, tears streaming down my face uncontrollably, then I quickly came back to reality and realised where I was. I was at work, so I felt I had no choice but to get a hold of myself. I calmly walked to the toilets, washed my face and asked if I could leave work. Luckily, I had understanding colleagues who of course, told me I could go.  I walked so quickly that my head started spinning. All I ...

Welcome to Himmat Collective, a place for the Punjabi Community to share their story around fertility and loss. We believe that everyone's journey is different, but we can all connect somehow. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I’m Kirren and I am a mother to my little angel Keerat Kaur Sira who was born sleeping. I’m sharing this blog to help anyone out there going through this feeling alone, to educate people on how it feels and what it looks like to lose a baby, and most importantly to highlight this is happening to people every day in our community. After 3 years of trying for a baby, a failed IVF attempt and multiple fertility issues, I was so ready to give up trying. So, we did, and everything we had put on hold including holidays, new job roles and moving to a new house began to take over. I left the organisation I worked for and moved to another bank, booked a holiday to Kenya and within three months of all of that I fell pregnant naturally. I was so excited but...